Knowing Yourself - ISFJ (Introvert Sensing Feeling Judging)

"Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others" - Brian Tracy

Here it comes, tulisan kedua dari delapan konsep yang tersedia.

Jadi semua bermula setelah 'beberapa' orang pamer ke-INTJ dan ke-ENTJ-an nya, dan akhirnya gue penasaran. "Gue ini siapa, sih?". Akhirnya, berujung ngambil test personality disini.

15 menit kemudian, setelah menjawab semua pertanyaannya.

SHOCKED! Hasilnya introvert, sensing, feeling, judging (ISFJ) .
Introvert, wajar. Sensing, lumayan wajar. Judging, juga wajar. Yang jadi masalah bagian feeling ini. Gue, self-proclaimed 'mati rasa', ternyata punya F, bukan T (thinking). This is the most shocking truth of the month!!

Oke, lepas dari fakta mengejutkan diatas, mari kita bahas hasil test nya aja. Gue bakal ngasih komentar disetiap paragraph dari hasil testnya.

Beware, wall of text, tl;dr.

The ISFJ personality type is quite unique, as many of their qualities defy the definition of their individual traits. Though possessing the Feeling (F) trait, ISFJs have excellent analytical abilities; though Introverted (I), they have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and though they are a Judging (J) type, ISFJs are often receptive to change and new ideas. As with so many things, people with the ISFJ personality type are more than the sum of their parts, and it is the way they use these strengths that defines who they are.

Hmm, okay. Disini dijelaskan bahwa walaupun punya sifat Feeling, tapi tetap punya kemampuan analisis yang bagus. Oke, terjawab sudah kenapa bukan T.
Berikutnya dijelaskan bahwa walau introvert tapi punya, ummm, hubungan dan kemampuan sosial yang bagus. *lirik friendlist yang minim*


ISFJs are true altruists, meeting kindness with kindness-in-excess and engaging the work and people they believe in with enthusiasm and generosity.
Altruist, alias selflessness, alias ga peduli diri sendiri, so truue. Seperti quote terkenal:
'Non ignara mali, miseris succurrere disco.' -- Virgil's Aeneid, Book I, line 630
Roughly translated "No stranger to misfortune myself, I have learned to relieve the sufferings of others". Kalo diterjemahkan ke Bahasa, agak susah. kira-kira "Karena aku sudah terbiasa dengan kesialan yang sering menimpaku, aku jadi belajar untuk meringankan penderitaan orang lain". Entah kenapa menolong orang terasa lebih menyenangkan dan menenangkan.

Jadi inget kejadian di wisudaan seseorang, sebut saja sobat D. Waktu itu ceritanya gue masih mahasiswa tingkat akhir yang ogah-ogahan ngerjain Tugas akhir, jadinya belum lulus. Waktu itu baru pada keluar dari ruangan wisuda, yang mana pas tengah hari terik. Sobat D pas wisudaan pake wedges, dong. Karena gabisa jalan lancar, akhirnya lepas wedges. Karena jalannya panas, akhirnya ngembat sendal orang. Karna orang yang bersangkutan tidak mungkin jalan pake wedges dengan ukuran segitu, jadilah dia berjalan telanjang kaki di jalanan yang panas.


There's hardly a better type to make up such a large proportion of the population, nearly 13%. Combining the best of tradition and the desire to do good, ISFJs are found in lines of work with a sense of history behind them, such as medicine, academics and charitable social work.
And here I am, as a programmer (at the moment)


ISFJ personalities (especially Turbulent ones) are often meticulous to the point of perfectionism, and though they procrastinate, they can always be relied on to get the job done on time. ISFJs take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond, doing everything they can to exceed expectations and delight others, at work and at home.
Cermat sampai-sampai bisa dibilang perfeksionis, kadang-kadang. Biasanya sebelum commit code ke repository diteliti satu-persatu. Kali aja salah merge, dan kadang tetap salah merge OTL
Suka menunda pekerjaan, pastinyaa *bangga*.
Membahagiakan orang lain, bukankah itu tujuan kita terlahir di dunia?

We Must Be Seen to Be Believed

The challenge for ISFJs is ensuring that what they do is noticed. They have a tendency to underplay their accomplishments, and while their kindness is often respected, more cynical and selfish people are likely to take advantage of ISFJs' dedication and humbleness by pushing work onto them and then taking the credit. ISFJs need to know when to say no and stand up for themselves if they are to maintain their confidence and enthusiasm.
Cenderung menganggap remeh pencapaian mereka. Hmm, dalam hal ini mungkin kaum ISFJ ini bisa melakukan X, tapi karena malu-malu dan kurang pede mereka bilang gabisa. Semacam ini pula yang terjadi pas competency review. Ga mau klaim gara-gara merasa kurang pantas.


Naturally social, an odd quality for Introverts, ISFJs utilize excellent memories not to retain data and trivia, but to remember people, and details about their lives. When it comes to gift-giving, ISFJs have no equal, using their imagination and natural sensitivity to express their generosity in ways that touch the hearts of their recipients. While this is certainly true of their coworkers, whom people with the ISFJ personality type often consider their personal friends, it is in family that their expressions of affection fully bloom.
Ingatan yang bagus. HAAAH?! Sebagai seorang pelupa, gue merasa tersinggung. Ato sebenarnya ingatan gue emang bagus, tapi cuma hal-hal yang gue anggap penting doang.

If I Can Protect You, I Will

ISFJ personalities are a wonderful group, rarely sitting idle while a worthy cause remains unfinished. ISFJs' ability to connect with others on an intimate level is unrivaled among Introverts, and the joy they experience in using those connections to maintain a supportive, happy family is a gift for everyone involved. They may never be truly comfortable in the spotlight, and may feel guilty taking due credit for team efforts, but if they can ensure that their efforts are recognized, ISFJs are likely to feel a level of satisfaction in what they do that many other personality types can only dream of.
Ga bisa tinggal diam kalo ada yang belum beres. Ngapain diam kalo ada yg bisa dikerjain, kecuali kalo gaada (kayak sekarang. hehehe).
Walau cuma dikalangan introvert, tapi skill kedekatannya jagoan.

ISFJ Strengths

Supportive – ISFJs are the universal helpers, sharing their knowledge, experience, time and energy with anyone who needs it, and all the more so with friends and family. People with this personality type strive for win-win situations, choosing empathy over judgment whenever possible.

Reliable and Patient – Rather than offering sporadic, excited rushes that leave things half finished, ISFJs are meticulous and careful, taking a steady approach and bending with the needs of the situation just enough to accomplish their end goals. ISFJs not only ensure that things are done to the highest standard, but often go well beyond what is required.

Imaginative and Observant – ISFJs are very imaginative, and use this quality as an accessory to empathy, observing others' emotional states and seeing things from their perspective. With their feet firmly planted on the ground, it is a very practical imagination, though they do find things quite fascinating and inspiring.
Imajinatif, mengamati kondisi emosional orang lain, berusaha melihat sesuatu dari perspektif orang lain. Karena ini, jadilah beberapa tulisan aneh. Contohnya Racun kemaren, sama cerita aneh lainnya. Walaupun kayaknya untuk bagian mengamati kondisi emosional orang lain agak kurang tepat. Atau mungkin otak ini pura-pura tidak tahu, secara disadari maupun tak disadari.

Enthusiastic – When the goal is right, ISFJs take all this support, reliability and imagination and apply it to something they believe will make a difference in people's lives – whether fighting poverty with a global initiative or simply making a customer's day.

Loyal and Hard-Working – Given a little time, this enthusiasm grows into loyalty – ISFJ personalities often form an emotional attachment to the ideas and organizations they've dedicated themselves to. Anything short of meeting their obligations with good, hard work fails their own expectations.
Semangat akan berubah menjadi kesetiaan. Jangan lupa ada Introvert dari ISFJ. Kalau mereka tidak 'digandeng' diawal, maka Semangat pun akan susah datang *curhat*.

Good Practical Skills – The best part is, ISFJs have the practical sense to actually do something with all this altruism. If mundane, routine tasks are what need to be done, ISFJs can see the beauty and harmony that they create, because they know that it helps them to care for their friends, family, and anyone else who needs it.
All hail left brain. Nuff said.

ISFJ Weakness

Humble and Shy – The meek shall inherit the earth, but it's a long road if they receive no recognition at all. This is possibly ISFJs' biggest challenge, as they are so concerned with others' feelings that they refuse to make their thoughts known, or to take any duly earned credit for their contributions. ISFJs' standards for themselves are also so high that, knowing they could have done some minor aspect of a task better, they often downplay their successes entirely.
All hail introvertness. Nuff said.

Take Things Too Personally – ISFJs have trouble separating personal and impersonal situations – any situation is still an interaction between two people, after all – and any negativity from conflict or criticism can carry over from their professional to their personal lives, and back again.
Aand this is a serious problem for me.

Repress Their Feelings – People with the ISFJ personality type are private and very sensitive, internalizing their feelings a great deal. Much in the way that ISFJs protect others' feelings, they must protect their own, and this lack of healthy emotional expression can lead to a lot of stress and frustration.
If I tell you my stories, it means I trust you with it.

Overload Themselves – Their strong senses of duty and perfectionism combine with this aversion to emotional conflict to create a situation where it is far too easy for ISFJs to overload themselves – or to be overloaded by others – as they struggle silently to meet everyone's expectations, especially their own.
Untungnya gaada belum ada yang begini

Reluctant to Change – These challenges can be particularly hard to address since ISFJ personalities value traditions and history highly in their decisions. A situation sometimes needs to reach a breaking point before ISFJs are persuaded by circumstance, or the strong personality of a loved one, to alter course.
Hasil test ini adalah salah satu contoh breaking point, tadinya berpikir kalau 'mati rasa', ternyata gue melankolis. Ahay

Too Altruistic – This is all compounded and reinforced by ISFJs' otherwise wonderful quality of altruism. Being such warm, good-natured people, ISFJs are willing to let things slide, to believe that things will get better soon, to not burden others by accepting their offers of help, while their troubles mount unassisted.
So, this is a weakness -_-

ISFJ Relationship

Wahai darah muda yang bergelora, nikmatilah!!

When it comes to romantic relationships, ISFJs' kindness grows into a joy that is only found in taking care of their family and home, in being there for emotional and practical support whenever it's needed. Home is where the heart is for people with the ISFJ personality type, and in no other area of their lives do they strive with such dedication to create the harmony and beauty they wish to see in the world.

The trouble is, these are the benefits of an established long-term relationship, and ISFJs' unbearable shyness means it can take a long time to reach this point. ISFJs are most attractive when they are simply being themselves in a comfortable environment such as work, where their natural flow shows this kindness and dedication. Relationships built on established familiarity are a warm prospect for ISFJs – they take dating seriously and only enter into relationships that have a real chance of lasting a lifetime.
Kalo kata kak Trio mah "Lu pernah kepikiran 'Dia ibu yang baik buat anak-anak gue' ga ke doi?"

ISFJs' shyness and sensitivity shield what are, beneath the surface, incredibly strong feelings. While not always obvious to others, this river of emotion can't be taken lightly or for granted – ISFJ personalities can value the idea of committed romance almost as highly as some regard religious beliefs. Hard as it may be, if either dating partner doubts their feelings, they must part ways before real emotional damage is done.

As their relationships do progress, ISFJs often continue to struggle with emotional expression, but they have the opportunity to let physical affection stand in for their loving words. People with this personality type take no greater joy than in pleasing others, often even considering this a personal duty, and this applies to intimacy as well. While dutiful sex may not sound especially attractive in those specific terms, intimacy is tremendously important to ISFJs, and they spare no effort in this department.

Nor is the pleasure they take in ensuring their partners' happiness limited to the bedroom – ISFJs spend an enormous amount of time and energy finding ways to keep their relationship satisfying for their partners. All they ask in return is commitment, love and, perhaps most of all, appreciation.

However, not everyone is prepared to pay even that small price for the benefit of ISFJs' kindness. If their partners aren't willing or able to express this thanks, or worse still are openly critical of their ISFJ partners, they will find that, given time and pressure, all of those repressed emotions can burst forth in massive verbal attacks that all the future regret in the world won't blunt.

These outbursts are something to watch out for, but the more pervasive issue in ISFJs' relationships is that it can be too easy for their altruism and kindness to be taken advantage of, maybe even without their partners realizing it, while leaving ISFJs' own needs and dreams unfulfilled. This is something that ISFJs' partners, and ISFJ personalities themselves, must look after if they want the sort of long, fulfilling relationships they dream about. Expressing appreciation is often more than just the right words, it is reciprocation.
Long story short, its important for your partner to know that you're an ISFJ. For the sake of healthy relationship.

If these couples can manage this balance of mutual appreciation and goal-setting, they will come to find that the best ISFJ qualities emerge later in the relationship, as they work towards establishing families and homes together.

While perfectly capable in the workplace and among friends, ISFJs' true passions lie in taking care of their families, from playing with their children to the mundane needs of the household, efforts ISFJs are only too happy to contribute.

ISFJs are trustworthy, loyal, loving and faithful and nothing brings them more joy than the commitment of an appreciative and thriving relationship. The best matches are those who share these sensibilities, namely those who share the Observant (S) trait, with one or two opposing traits to ensure that both partners have room to grow, develop and help each other along, 'til the end of their days.

ISFJ FRIENDS

Given how generous ISFJs are with their warm praise and support, it's not surprising that others enjoy their company enough to call them friends. The challenge is to be considered a friend back – people with the ISFJ personality type are shy and a little protective of themselves, but they also need to be able to connect on a deeper emotional level. It makes sense then that most of ISFJs' friends are made not by random encounters on a wild night out, but through comfortable and consistent contact, as in class or in the workplace where they have the time to get to know each other little by little.
This is why I often shut myself. This is why I have my "6 month" rule

A lot of what establishes and deepens ISFJs' friendships is the mutual support, advice and reassurance that the friends give each other.

ISFJs need a lot of positive feedback, and admitting this need certainly shows vulnerability, but if that vulnerability is well handled, it creates the deep bonds that ISFJ personalities look for. If badly handled or not reciprocated, it's hard to see the burgeoning friendship surviving without quite a bit of extra effort.

Yet, as their friendships develop, ISFJs' sense of loyalty may push them to lean ever more on themselves to meet their friends' needs, to the point of neglecting their own. ISFJs show this in a few ways, from going clearly out of their ways to stick to even trivial commitments, to simply not wanting to disagree or say no for fear of causing turbulence. More cynical types would call this naïve, and may even take advantage of ISFJs' altruism – but these are hardly the type of people who could be called “friends”, and they have no business being discussed here.
Again, selflessness

The real friends, those close inner circles, are the ones ISFJs truly cherish for their quality of character and quality of discussion. Strangely for an Observant (S) type, ISFJs almost always have an Intuitive (N) friend among them, despite the implicit communication barriers. It's really not that odd though – these close friends are who ISFJs discuss deeper, more important matters with, and the quality of thought that Intuitives bring with them gives ISFJs' an impression of limitless depth, mystery and wisdom.
Yep, my deep inner circle mostly consist of someone who I usually discuss something with. From some random question, stupidity, to some serious and sensitive topic.
When I start chat you a lot, it means I try to make some bond.
Tahapan pertama biasanya adalah sesi random question, karena ini salah satu topik paling ringan yang pernah tercipta. Bakal ada beberapa random question yang kau terima.
Sekali, dua kali, tiga kali.
Kalo udah kayak lolos, I'll report my daily activities to you. So far as I remember, only one (or two) person achieved this stage. I hope there is any other person achieve this stage soon.

People with the ISFJ personality type aren't particularly picky about what personality types they make friends with, at least not initially, but because they prefer so strongly to avoid conflict and miscommunication, most of their friends end up being fairly similar types – fellow Introverted and Extraverted Feeling Sentinels (ISFJ and ESFJ). Thinking types are simply too critical, and Prospecting types too unreliable to really be able to provide, and receive, the kind of support and affinity ISFJs look for.
Maybe most of my friends consist of ISFJ or ESFJ. I don't know the exact who, since most of them don't know their own type. But some others consist of INTJ, ENTJ and ISNJ. Intinya, ga menutup kemungkinan, asalkan cocok.

CONCLUSION

Few personality types are as practical and dedicated as ISFJs. Known for their reliability and altruism, ISFJs are good at creating and maintaining a secure and stable environment for themselves and their loved ones. ISFJs' dedication is invaluable in many areas, including their own personal growth.

Yet ISFJs can be easily tripped up in areas where their kindness and practical approach are more of a liability than an asset. Whether it is finding (or keeping) a partner, learning to relax or improvise, reaching dazzling heights on the career ladder, or managing their workload, ISFJs need to put in a conscious effort to develop their weaker traits and additional skills.


Bagian berikutnya adalah Parenting, Career, and Workplace Habit. Karena ga terlalu signifikan buat ditulis disini, makanya gak gue masukin.
But if you still want to know, please reffer to this page.


So, setelah membaca penjelasan dari page diatas, berikut kesimpulan yang gue tarik:
1. Gue ISFJ-T, ISFJ dengan Turbulent (Perfectionist, Success-driven, Self conscious, care about their image)
2. We achieve our happiness by being useful to others. Membahagiakanmu adalah kebahagiaan terbesarku :)
3. Oleh karena poin 2, maka membuatmu kecewa adalah penderitaan terbesarku
4. Dilanjutkan lagi, hal ini juga membuat kami tidak suka menyusahkan orang lain. Walaupun sebenarnya kalian tidak merasa direpotkan, tapi selama kami tidak tahu akan hal itu, kami tetap berpikir bahwa kami merepotkan. So, We tend to do thing by ourself.

I think ISFJ is like a curse. Wear it like an armor, so it won't hurt you. Wear it like an armor, so it will protect you.

For you guys out there, I think its better for you who haven't known your personality type to take it.
Take it, know it, and have fun with it. Cheers


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Hmm sebenarnya sesi ini ga perlu, sih. Cuma pengen nambahin curcol cerita aja.

Duluuu, waktu jaman kuliah, pernah dapat jadwal penerbangan pulkam subuh.
Otomatis, tengah malam mesti ke Cipaganti, buat diangkut ke Bandara Soekarno-Hatta.
Nah, waktu itu males banget pesan taksi, dan males juga ngerepotin teman.
Akhirnya, gue jalan kaki sambil bawa tas jinjing (sampe sekarang belom punya koper yang ada rodanya), jalan kaki tengah malam sampai pool Cipaganti (2-3KM, maybe).
Self defense tool, bawa pulpen. Dengan harapan kalo ada yang macem2 di jalan, tinggal tusuk pake pulpen. 
Padahal loh yah, tinggal minta tolong anterin bentar, bakal lebih cepat dan aman.
(Waktu itu belum kenal bang Royco, yang bisa dimintain tolong :D)


And for present day, this problem still occur. For dinner party (party as in group, not party as in gathering for excitement),
I, who only have bicycle, often refuse offer just because the person's (with empty slot on their motorcycle) house is in different direction and far from the office. Simply because I dont want to bother them. So as long as they don't offer me a ride, I won't ask them. And often ended with I eat at my room.

You can call me stupid because I want you to understand me, but this is who we are, fellow ISFJ.

And, remember. Although we are Introvert, we love going out somewhere with our inner circle #Kode.


As usual, here I lay my pen down.

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